one thing that really sucks about caring for people who are withdrawn at times is dealing with the times that they are closed to you despite the fact that they may be hurting. the desire to help your friends, family and others that you care about in these times can be so distracting that very little else fills your mind when you are not sure what is going on. sometimes all that you can say is, "hang in there, it will be fine and i am here for you..."
and sometimes that just doesn't feel like enough...
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ah-ha but we have to maintain our mysterious cover for the world at large. if we weren't withdrawn, everyone would discover our secret alter-egos. for instance, i am really supergirl in disguise. but even supergirls need friends at times. thanks for the chat last night!
Posted by krink | December 3, 2001 2:11 PM
Posted on December 3, 2001 14:11
i have always wondered what it is about the secret alter-ego that is such a wonderful thing. i mean, i can completely understand that by having that, especially if that is your true self, that you get the benifit of protection from real pain. but the seperation of the real self from those that care about you has to leave you at least slightly unsatisfied with your interactions with others.
Posted by takeru | December 3, 2001 3:45 PM
Posted on December 3, 2001 15:45
but what if it is an aspect of your true self to remain withdrawn? you become resigned to dissatisfaction after it's been around for so long. i hear it so much... "...you should open up more." but what is it that they want to hear? i wonder about that a lot.
Posted by krink | December 3, 2001 8:38 PM
Posted on December 3, 2001 20:38
i think that there exists a fine line between being healthy and being too withdrawn. i really wasn't talking about this in the original post. i was just trying to say something about not shutting out your friends, especially when you probably need them the most.
Posted by takeru | December 4, 2001 3:20 AM
Posted on December 4, 2001 03:20