this raises some interesting problems. it hurts to care about someone who distances you from their life for no other reason than to protect themselves. it makes you begin to wonder if you are a very good friend at all. but if you really care you will not push back nor will you run away. you will stand and let the force of seperation wash by you. firm and honest you will not tolerate nor will you demand. perhaps in time you will convince the other person that whatever reason they have for protecting themselves is not doing such a good job after all. or they could just stay there taking from your friendship and not giving anything in return. the question is who will be able sleep at night?
at least there is good music in the world...
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i distance myself from others on accident sometimes, without even realizing i'm doing it. then i look up for 3 months worth of submersing myself in work, and i go..."hey? where is everyone?"
Posted by spike | December 6, 2001 7:04 PM
Posted on December 6, 2001 19:04
i'm in the process of becoming indifferent when others decide to back off. Seems to be a self- and other- respect themed mood, if not more. Let them go, i think to myself. Respect the distance they choose and don't waste your energy.
And work, my projects will distance me from others, but i don't know if i retreat to them or am just in focus.
Posted by ciole | December 7, 2001 4:38 PM
Posted on December 7, 2001 16:38
don't get me wrong, i would never pressure someone who was sending me a stop bothering vibe. but i just don't work that way. the thing is that i never considered it a waste of energy and if an interaction or relationship was not rewarding at some level, i wouldn't be involved in it.
Posted by takeru | December 9, 2001 1:11 AM
Posted on December 9, 2001 01:11